Sorting
Out the Mess Surrounding
the
Gay Marriage Controversy
Growing
up in the Catholic church, and recalling my years in Catholic school,
I learned the Bible’s stance on homosexuality is clear-cut. God
condemns it, I was taught, and those who disagree just haven’t read
their Bibles closely enough. You might say that my childhood church
community’s approach to gay rights — though well intentioned —
is riddled with self-serving double standards.
I
don’t doubt that the one New Testament author who wrote on the
subject of male-male intercourse thought it a sin. In Romans chapter
1 the Apostle Paul called it “unnatural.” Problem is, Paul’s
only other moral argument from nature is the following: “Does not
nature itself teach you that if a man wears long hair, it is
degrading to him, but if a woman has long hair, it is her glory?”
(1 Corinthians 11:14-15). Few Christians would answer that question
with a “yes.”
In
short, Paul objects to two things as unnatural: one is male-male sex
and the other is long hair on men and short hair on women. The
community opposed to gay marriage takes one condemnation as timeless
and universal and the other as culturally relative. I also don’t
doubt that those who advocate gay marriage are advocating a revision
of the Christian tradition. But the community opposed to gay marriage
has itself revised the Christian tradition in many ways. For the
first 1500 years of Christianity, for example, marriage was deemed
morally inferior to celibacy. When a theologian named Jovinian
challenged that hierarchy in 390 A.D. — merely by suggesting that
marriage and celibacy might be equally worthwhile endeavors — he
was deemed a heretic and excommunicated from the church. How does
that sit with so-called “family values” activism today?
Yale
New Testament professor Dale B. Martin once noted that today’s
"pro-family" activism, despite its pretense to be
representing traditional Christian values, would have been considered
heretical for most of the church’s history. The community opposed
to gay marriage has also departed from the Christian tradition on
another issue at the heart of its social agenda: abortion.
Unbeknownst to most lay Christians, the vast majority of Christian
theologians and saints throughout history have not believed life
begins at conception. Although he admitted some uncertainty on the
matter, the hugely influential 4th and 5th century Christian thinker
Saint Augustine wrote, “it could not be said that there was a
living soul in [a] body” if it is “not yet endowed with senses.”
Thomas Aquinas, a Catholic saint and a giant of medieval theology,
argued, “Before the body has organs in any way whatever, it cannot
be receptive of the soul.”
American
evangelicals, meanwhile, widely opposed the idea that life begins at
conception until the 1970s, with some even advocating looser abortion
laws based on their reading of the Bible before then. The point right
here is that it won’t do to oppose gay marriage because it’s not
traditional while advocating other positions that are not
traditional. And then there’s the topic of divorce. Although there
is only one uncontested reference to same-sex relations in the New
Testament, divorce is condemned throughout, both by Jesus and Paul.
To quote Jesus from the Gospel of Mark: “Whoever divorces his wife
and marries another commits adultery.” A possible exception is made
only for unfaithfulness.
The
right-wing conservative community most opposed to gay marriage
usually reads these condemnations very leniently. A 2007 issue of
Christianity Today, for example, featured a story on its cover about
divorce that concluded that Christians should permit divorce for
“adultery,” “emotional and physical neglect” and “abandonment
and abuse.” The author emphasizes how impractical it would be to
apply a strict interpretation of Jesus on this matter: “It is
difficult to believe the Bible can be as impractical as this
interpretation implies.” It sure is.
On
the other hand, it’s not at all difficult for a community of
Christian leaders, who are almost exclusively white, heterosexual
men, to advocate interpretations that can be very impractical for a
historically oppressed minority to which they do not belong –
homosexuals. Whether the topic is hair length, celibacy, when life
begins, or divorce, time and time again the leaders most opposed to
gay marriage have demonstrated an incredible willingness to consider
nuances and complicating considerations when their own interests are
at stake.
I
have been a born-again Christian since October of 1992, and I
received my baptism of the Holy Spirit in 2008. And so I no longer
identify with the Catholic church of my youth. The community gave me
many fond memories and sound values but it also taught me to take the
very human perspectives of its leaders and attribute them to God. So
let’s stop the charade and be honest. Opponents of gay marriage
aren’t defending the Bible’s values. They’re using the Bible to
defend their own. They are also forgetting that the Bible repeatedly
warns us about judging other people. Judgment isn't our job, it's
God's job, and I will give you several examples. In the Old Testament
it says, “I will deal with them according to their conduct, and
by their own standards I will judge them. Then they will know that I
am the Lord” (Ezekiel 7, verse 27, NIV). And in the New
Testament Jesus said, “Do not judge, or you too will be judged.
For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with
the measure you use, it will be measured to you”
(Matthew 7, verses 1-2, NIV). And the apostle James wrote,
“Brothers, do not slander one another. Anyone who speaks against
his brother or judges him speaks against the Law and judges it. When
you judge the Law, you are not keeping it, but sitting in judgment on
it. There is only one Lawgiver and judge, the one who is able to save
and destroy. But you – who are you to judge your neighbor?”
(James 4, verses 11-12, NIV) So, before we rush to judgment or jump
to conclusions about homosexuality, gay marriage or abortion, we all
need to back away from our judge's podiums and get down off our high
horses and quit doing the very thing that could get someone sent to
hell when they die. “Work out your own salvation”, Paul wrote,
“with fear and trembling before the Lord”. And that right there,
everybody, should be “job 1” for Christians everywhere. If it's
not, or if we hold certain others in contempt, anyone doing so is
missing the mark, falling short in their walk with the Lord, and
inviting judgment upon themselves.